The Radiant Woman

Question: Hi Merja, you seem to be so good at being straight and direct with people, how can I harness some of that “Merja energy” when I am in challenging situations where I need to speak up? I get this comment a lot of the time, it’s not so much that I was born straight and direct and being able to express what I need to express. It was more that I had to learn it, because a lot of my life I felt very dis-empowered and very much at the receiving end of the world, and I fel

Question - How do I know if I am in the right relationship or if I should move on? This is something that a lot of women do struggle with, we wonder if we are actually in the right relationship or if we should just move on to something else that might be a little bit happier for us. My answer in short is that you don’t know until you know certain things about yourself and until you know certain things about your partner. There are three specific things that you need to know a

Question: How do I work out what I really want, as opposed to what I feel I ‘should’ want? For example if I get triggered and I ask my little girl “what do you need right now?” I find it hard to hear her over the noise of things I ‘should’ be doing eg paperwork, work commitments, dishes, cleaning and then I get frustrated and just eat something to deal with how I was triggered. If you have a sentence beginning with these words “I should...” then you know it’s not your little

“Change will not come if wait for some other person, or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.” Barack Obama The One Day Workshop will not change your life. But it will give you the tools to allow you to do so, and the support to make it happen when things get tough. Before you even attend, you’ll get a pre-workshop package that helps you find out what makes you tick, and the way you respond to events your life. Once at t

Question: In regards to boundaries, how do you set boundaries with people without coming across as rude? In the beginning you come across as rude because people are not expecting you to set boundaries. So whatever you do, however you do it, it won’t go down well because people have certain expectations of you. When there are people who don’t have expectations of you, for example if you are meeting up with a person who you doesn’t know from before, setting boundaries is actua